And never forget the lesson.
Life is confusing enough. I no longer believe that it is about being good to everyone, being kind to everyone. I'm not sure that these things always get returned to you.
I think there is an element of learning that needs to happen. You need to be kind to people, but within reason. If someone hurts you, harms you, abandons you, whatever it may be, you simply do not go back for more. You learn from what life has taught you and you move on. Being kind to someone who does not return your kindness is not a sign of a good person. It's the sign of a stupid person.
People need to open their eyes and see what is around them. Look at your life's experiences and learn from what you are being shown.
We as humans are often guilty of making some mistakes over and over again. I get that. We are guilty of not knowing when we have walked a similar road before. I get that too. It explains why many abused women for example, end up with abusive men even the second time through.
But there is NO EXCUSE for going back to the SAME PERSON for more once they have kicked you. That is just plain stupid.
We as humans need to at least learn how not to walk down the exact same road a second time through. A similar road maybe, but not the same one.
I'm sure this is not making much sense to any of you, but it makes a lot of sense to me.
I have a few things going on in my life. I'm looking at them all- relationships past and present, friends and how they treat me, as well as my friends' experiences. There is a consistent theme. I don't learn from what life has taught me, and I do go back to the same person with hope: hope that they will change, hope that things will be different, hope that they will treat me as I treat them, but it always ends up the same.
I have a few goals for next year. One of them will be to open my eyes and start learning from my experiences.
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