So my ex and I are due back in court in Oct. However, I *think* we've decided to try to work together and see if we can avoid court for now. (Let's see how that goes- but honestly, couldn't he have tried working together BEFORE starting a court process??). My experience has always unfortunately been that he is not that trustworthy, but somehow I have allowed myself to become the world's punching bag, so here I am, agreeing to everything, and as always getting nothing in return. (Wow, that sounds really bitter, doesn't it? I didn't mean for it to be!).
I've decided to do this mostly for selfish reasons. I need some sanity in my life. I don't need to add more stress or to even deal with his constant confrontational emails. Balancing work, kids, housework is always a challenge, and if they can have a good time with their dad, I am supportive. That problem is, that's a bit IF. How do you handle an unstable person? Do you trust, or do you let your experiences guide you?
On another note (after my big rant!)- Ramadan was a bit tougher this year- the fasts were LONG and with work, they felt even longer. Fortunately, I worked from home every Thursday, and took every Friday off work. That helped a lot. I took the kids to the mosque every Friday and we even went with my parents. It was loads of fun! I am so glad I did that. The kids even kept a few fasts, because I was home on Fridays and we were able to do it together. When Ramadan ended, on the Friday of the long weekend, my daughter said "Mommy it's Friday- can we go to the mosque?". It was cute, and of course we all went- always a nice bonding experience. I guess the biggest accomplishment this Ramadan, was giving the children a bit of enjoyment and excitement around fasting and the mosque- something they didn't have before.
